Dating violence or abuse affects one in four teens
What if your partner is abusing you and you want out?
• Don’t put up with abuse. You deserve better.
• Know that you are not alone. Teens from all different backgrounds across the country are involved in or have been involved in a violent relationship.
• Understand that you have done nothing wrong. It is not your fault.
• Know that the longer you stay in the abusive relationship, the more intense the violence will become.
• Recognize that being drunk is not an excuse for someone to become abusive.
• Talk with your parents, a friend, a counselor, a faith leader or spiritual leader, or someone else you trust. The more isolated you are from friends and family, the more control the abuser has over you.
• Know that you can get help from professionals at rape crisis centers, health services, counseling centers, or your family’s health care provider.
• Alert a school counselor or security officer about the abuse.
• Keep a daily log of the abuse for evidence.
• Remember that no one is justified in attacking you because he or she is angry.
• Do not meet him or her alone. Do not let him or her in your home or car when you are alone.
• Avoid being alone at school, your job, or on the way to and from places.
• Always tell someone where you are going and when you plan to be back.
• Plan and rehearse what you will do if he or she becomes abusive.